> Date: Tue, 25 Oct 2005 13:29:14 +0800
> Subject: Katipunan, QC incident
>
> Jim Paredes wrote:
> Katipunan, QC incident
>
> Dear friends,
>
> Many of you may not have heard of the incident
> that happened to a friend of my son last week at
> about
> 6:30 pm right in front of the thickly-populated area
> of BPI-Katipunan, near shoppersville. she parked her
> car right in front of BPI to make a withdrawal and
> to do some grocery.
>
> As she was getting into her car after doing her
> chores, a man suddenly appeared beside her and tried
> to bully her into moving to the passenger seat. when
> she pressed her car horn to call attention, he
> pushed her in the car and pinned her down with his
> elbow on her neck. it was a good thing that she had
> the presence of mind to continue to struggle and
> press on her car horn to catch attention (even if
> she
> had to use her foot to do this) Her assailant even
> tried to make people believe that it was a domestic
> matter by telling the crowd not to get involved as
> it was a "private matter". But with the onlookers
> multiplying by the second, her assailant finally
> gave up and ran. that was when she stood up and
> shouted for help. Thank God the guy got caught and
> is now under police custody.
>
> Last saturday, during the inquest, she told me that
> what gave her the guts to fight her assailant was
> the article "THROUGH A RAPIST'S EYES" forwarded to
> our e-groups! about a week prior to her attack. I am
> re-forwarding the article (you can find it at the
> bottom of this (e-mail) for everyone's benefit.
> please tell your friends, family, and loved ones
> about this. It works. may i just add that to a
> certain extent, we have to get ourselves involved if
> we see violence being committed on anyone like
> calling on a security guard or a police officer even
> if it appears to be a domestic matter. It seems that
> a lot of attackers use that tactic to get away with
> violence. Not many people know how to take care of
> themselves when faced with such a situation.
> Everyone, please be very, very careful.
>
> THOUGHT THIS WAS GOOD INFO TO PASS ALONG...
>
> FYI - Through a rapist's eyes!
> A group of rapists and date rapists in prison were
> interviewed on what they look for in a potential
> victim and here are some interesting facts:
>
> 1] The first thing men look for in a potential
> victim is hairstyle. They are most likely to go
> after a woman with a ponytail, bun! , braid or other
> hairstyle that can easily be grabbed. They are also
> likely to go after a woman with long hair. Women
> with short hair are not common targets.
>
> 2] The second thing men look for is clothing. They
> will look for women who's clothing is easy to remove
> quickly. Many of them carry scissors around to cut
> clothing.
>
> 3] They also look for women using their cell
> phone, searching through their purse or doing other
> activities while walking because they are off guard
> and can be easily overpowered.
>
> 4] The number one place women are abducted from /
> attacked at is grocery store parking lots.
>
> 5] Number two is office parking lots/garages.
>
> 6] Number three is public restrooms.
>
> 7] The thing about these men is that they are
> looking to grab a woman and quickly move her to a
> second location where they don't have to worry about
> getting caught.
>
> 8] If you put up any kind of a fight at all, they
> get discouraged because it only takes a minute or
> two for! them to realize that going after you isn't
> worth it because it will be time-consuming.
>
> 9] These men said they would not pick on women who
> have umbrellas,or other similar objects that can be
> used from a distance, in their hands.
>
> 10] Keys are not a deterrent because you have to get
> really close to the attacker to use them as a
> weapon. So, the idea is to convince these guys
> you're not worth it.
>
> POINTS THAT WE SHOULD REMEMBER:=20
>
> 1] If someone is following behind you on a street or
> in a garage or with you in an elevator or stairwell,
> look them in the face and ask them a question, like
> what time is it, or make general small talk: can't
> believe it is so cold out here, we're in for a bad
> winter. Now that you've seen their faces and could
> identify them in a line- up, you lose appeal as a
> target.
>
> 2] If someone is coming toward you, hold out your
> hands in front of you and yell Stop or Stay back!
> Most of the rapists this man talked to said they'd
> leave a woman alone if she yelled or showed that she
> would not be afraid to fight back. Again, they are
> looking for an EASY target.
>
> 3] If you carry pepper spray (this instructor was a
> huge advocate of it and carries it with him wherever
> he goes,) yelling I HAVE PEPPER SPRAY and holding it
> out will be a deterrent.
>
> 4] If someone grabs you, you can't beat them with
> strength but you can do it by outsmarting them. If
> you are grabbed around the waist from behind, pinch
> the attacker either under the arm between the elbow
> and armpit or in the upper inner thigh - HARD. One
> woman in a class this guy taught told him she used
> the underarm pinch on a guy who was trying to date
> rape her and was so upset she broke through the skin
> and tore out muscle strands the guy needed stitches.
> Try pinching yourself in those places as hard as you
> can stand it; it really hurts.
>
> 5] After the initial hit, always go for the groin. I
> know from a particularly unfortunate experience that
> if you slap a guy's parts it is extremely painful.
> You might think that you'll anger the guy and make
> him want to hurt you more, but the thing these
> rapists told our instructor is that they want a
> woman who will not cause him a lot of trouble. Start
> causing trouble, and he's out of there.
>
> 6] When the guy puts his hands up to you, grab his
> first two fingers and bend them back as far as
> possible with as much pressure pushing down on them
> as possible. The instructor did it to me without
> using much pressure, and I ended up on my knees and
> both knuckles cracked audibly.
>
> 7] Of course the things we always hear still apply.
> Always be aware of your surroundings, take someone
> with you if you can and if you see any odd behavior,
> don't dismiss it, go with your instincts. You may
> feel little silly at the time, but you'd feel much
> worse if the guy really was trouble.
>
> FINALLY, PLEASE REMEMBER THESE AS WELL ....
>
> I know you are smart enough to know these pointers
> but there will be some, where you will go "hmm I
> must remember that" After reading, forward it to
> someone you care about, never hurts to be careful in
> this crazy world we live in.
>
> 1. Tip from Tae Kwon Do: The elbow is the strongest
> point on your body. If you are close enough to use
> it, do it.
>
> 2. Learned this from a tourist guide to New Orleans:
> if a robber asks for your wallet and/or purse, DO
> NOT HAND IT TO HIM. Toss it away from you....
> chances are that he is more interested in your
> wallet and/or purse than you and he will go for the
> wallet/purse.
> RUN LIKE MAD IN THE OTHER DIRECTION!
>
> 3. If you are ever thrown into the trunk of a car:
> Kick out the back tail lights and stick your arm out
> the hole and start waving like crazy. The driver
> won't see you but everybody else will. This has
> saved lives.
>
> 4. Women have a tendency to get into their cars
> after shopping,eating, working, etc., and just sit
> doing their checkbook, or making a list, etc. DON'T
> DO THIS! The predator will be watching you, and this
> is the perfect opportunity for him to get in on the
> passenger side,put a gun to your head, and tell you
> where to go. AS SOON AS YOU CLOSE the DOORS ,
> LEAVE.
>
> 5. A few notes about getting into your car in a
> parking lot, or parking garage: a. Be aware: look
> around your car as someone may be hiding at the
> passenger side , peek into your car, inside the
> passenger side floor, and in the back seat. ( DO
> THIS TOO BEFORE RIDING A TAXI CAB) .
>
> b. If you! u are parked next to a big van, enter
> your car from the passenger door. Most serial
> killers attack their victims by pulling them into
> their vans while the women are attempting to get
> into their cars.
>
> c. Look at the car parked on the driver's side of
> your vehicle, and the passenger side. If a male is
> sitting alone in the seat nearest your car, you may
> want to walk back into the mall, or work, and get a
> guard/policeman to walk you back out. IT IS ALWAYS
> BETTER TO BE SAFE THAN SORRY. (And better paranoid
> than dead.)
>
> 6. ALWAYS take the elevator instead of the stairs.
> (Stairwells are horrible places to be alone and the
> perfect crime spot).
>
> 7. If the predator has a gun and you are not under
> his control, ALWAYS RUN! The predator will only hit
> you (a running target) 4 in 100 times; And even
> then, it most likely WILL NOT be a vital organ. RUN!
>
> 8. As women, we are always trying to be sympathetic:
> STOP IT! It may get you raped, or killed. Ted Bundy,
> the serial killer, was a good-looking, well educated
> man, who ALWAYS played on the sympathies of
> unsuspecting women. He walked with a cane, or a
> limp, and often asked "for help" into his vehicle or
> with his vehicle, which is when he abducted his next
>victim.
